Everyone has been in a situation where someone has broken their trust, or simply just made them upset. In these types of cases we’re taught to forgive and forget. Doing this wipes a person’s slate clean, so they can either learn from their mistakes or be free to make them again. If the person decides to learn and become a better person, forgiveness is a beautiful thing. Both parties come out happy, as the person who was deceived will regain their trust in the person who had once broken it and the other will be forgiven.
The beauty of forgiveness reminded me of the Scorpion Grass plant, also known as the Forget-Me-Not flower. This flower symbolizes many things, but one I find interesting is how it symbolizes fidelity and loyalty in a relationship, despite separation or other challenges. Some challenges may be their trust issues, especially when partners are far apart. A select amount of people think their partner will be more inclined to cheat, since they aren’t present. Most people will be loyal to their significant other, but what happens when they aren’t and that beauty of forgiveness shrivels up and dies? Will they truly forgive and forget?
When it comes to romantic relationships, most people wouldn’t forgive if their partner cheated on them. Yes, some give second chances, but after that they usually leave if it happens again. Forgiveness plays such a big factor in relationships, and not just romantic ones.
Where most people find the need to forgive is when they’re deceived by friends. Most people have a handful of friends, but they don’t necessarily trust them. Friends sometimes have the need to tell others secrets they have heard. If they happened to tell your secrets that’s when it becomes a problem. Trust is broken, and people are upset. In these cases people tend to forgive, but not forget. As they probably won’t trust the other person with secrets again. Everyone has dealt with this one time or another, I know I have. I’m one to test out if a person is trustworthy, but if I find out they’re not I won’t trust them again. I’ve had to stop trusting some of my closest friends at times, because they told something they shouldn’t have. For me I always forgive, but I never forget.
People can also take advantage of those who are so forgiving. They know the person will forgive them no matter what, so they keep being their friend for convenience. I also had friends like these, and people like that caused me to be less trusting. I think that’s a good thing though, because you learn not everyone is reliable. Forgiveness is an amazing thing, but only to a certain extent. You must learn to forgive those who deserve it, and not let people take advantage of your forgiveness.